This post is about me as a mom. It will might be boring, but because this blog is also like a journal, I'm posting it anyway. (As a side note: this post was written sometime last week when I was really worried about being a good mom...I still feel this way, but I'm not "freaking out" about it as much :)I don't really feel like I am a great mom. I am a good mom: I love my kids, snuggle them, bathe them, feed them, take them places, but I don't feel like I am the best mom I can be. For instance, I sleep in until 10a.m. every morning. Don't go calling the authorities...the kids don't usually wake up until 9:30 or so anyway, there is a snack for them on the table and they watch t.v. until I get up. I blame this on the pregnancy. I have been EXHAUSTED lately. The 2nd trimester has made this problem worse, not better..go figure!
After I get up, we sort of rush to get things done before Livi goes to school. We rush to school, dr. appt, going to Livi's class, etc (btw, these dr appts./being in her class are consuming my life lately!! We usually have anywhere from 2-5 appointments a week..no more please!)
Anyway, by the time we get home it is time to start dinner, clean the house, do a bit of laundry and then Luke is home and we do family time.
So, I am calling all moms (and non-moms) out there. What do you do during the day with your kids? I play with them in their rooms occasionally and occasionally make crafts with them, but what DO YOU DO, All day, every day? Ideas please! What are some things I can do on a daily basis?
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Wow. This was like a post picked right out of my brain! I never know what to do. Especially since Landon plays so well by himself, sometimes I wonder if I'm somehow being a bad mom by just letting him do his own thing while I get stuff done.
I guess the only thing I can think of is to really involve them in everyday life. It makes things a little harder, but let them look for the items while grocery shopping, or help with dinner. Just turning normal life into teaching opportunities makes me feel like I'm being the kind of mom I should be.
Landon like to sit on my lap while I check blogs. It's not terribly educational, but it gives us some together time and he loves to see everyone's pictures and especially videos of other little kids.
it's called: a nanny...boy am I a bad mom already...
Katie: This is the one good thing about having kids close together. They play with each other and don't need Mom so much. Reading stories to them was about as much as they required of me. We had an old kitchen table with a glass top, so they played with fingerpaints and homemade playdough alot.
I know Jenn does alot with her Sam, maybe she'd have some ideas.
Eva
i AM TERRIBLE to ask for advice on this one. I think it's not so much about doing lots of things and filling days, but just being willing to spend time with them--reading, or talking, or playing when they want to play something specific.
They will know ya love them!!
I think every mom feels like this at some point. Don't get yourself down. I've seen you with your children and you are a very good mother! You're children love you and are so grateful for everything you do for them!
hey!! All i have to say is I am sooo jealous you get to sleep in till 10am. I would give my right arm for that luxury. Dont feel bad if your kids sleep in till 9:30 anyways. It wont kill them to be on their own for a little bit since they are older. Its hard to be able to spend as much quality time with your kids especially when there is more than one, which is what i am finding out now. I was able to play with sydney all day before unless i needed to do something then i would find something to occupy her time or put on a movie. Now i find i just feed the baby and try to get her to take naps heheh I usually set up play dough for sydney, or we make peanut butter play dough. Very yummy!! I bought some games to play with her...hungry hippos, elefun ect. We go on walks but its probably too cold there for that. Every thur at our mall they have a program for kids and they can ride the merry go round for free. we color(magic wonder markers rock!!)
hope that helps. I used to feel bad too when i had to do a bunch of other stuff during the day and i would make sydney play on her own but its really good for her i think. I feel bad though cause i think she is lonely a lot but hopefully london will grow up fast and then they can play. sorry i rambled...hope that helped a little.
I am right there with you. I think I have fallen into lazy parenting. Don't get me wrong. I do the sunggling, the feeding, the bathing, but when it comes to the kcrafts and the extra games I have started to slack. Once we went from 2 to 3 it was like all I do in my spare time is clean up after them. I feel like I never catch up on anything. It is my new years resolution to become a better mommy. I don't think I am a bad mom either, but I am not the mom that I want or wanted to be when I first started to have kids. Thanks for the post. Now I know I am not the only mom. I think we ALL need to work on becoming better no matter how good we may think we are.
Congrats on the new baby. I am excited for you.
I bet every mom goes through this. I often feel like I'm not a very good mom or that I'm just not doing ENOUGH. My days usually consist of a lot of reading, building towers with Legos, drawing, play-dough, making lunch and doing chores. Play groups are a good way to get out of the house and get your kids around other kids. I fear that my son doesn't get enough interaction with children his age. Going to the library or other local spots for kids is a good way to fill a few hours. I don't really know what advice to give you. I lead a very boring life! But, I agree with the first comment. Letting your children help with the everyday chores is a good learning experience. My son always wants to be the "big helper" so I let him assist me in doing things like laundry or dusting. It takes longer, but at least he's interested and wants to hang out with me. :)
I'm no mom yet, but I can also see how hard all these moms are on themselves. I think it is great that you can sleep till 10. Growing up I remember doing things with my mom, but it wasn't an all day everyday thing. Most of the time I remember playing with my brothers and sisters. It was mom's job to be there when I needed her and to take care of my needs. I think being a mom that your kids can run to whenever they need you is really the best thing. You seem to be doing a wonderful job.
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